Having an abusive partner can be scary, dangerous, and emotionally draining. Learning you’re pregnant can add a new layer of fear into the equation. You deserve to be in a safe, loving environment and free from harm.
Continue reading to learn about the resources available to you. You are not alone!
Should My Partner Know About My Pregnancy?
First things first: telling your partner about your pregnancy may not be safe, especially if they are abusive and you are scared of their reaction. Consider whether this is the appropriate time to tell them or whether it is best to tell them at all. Remember, your safety is paramount here, and if you will be put in more danger, it is best not to say anything.
Before talking to your partner, consider speaking with a trusted family, friend, or mental health professional. It often helps to have a friendly face and a listening ear nearby and you can discuss your options. If you deem speaking to your partner about your pregnancy safe, do so in a public place and bring a loved one along.
How Can I Protect Myself?
You must remember that any form of abuse, whether it is sexual, physical, or emotional, is never okay. You deserve to be protected and receive professional help. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233) for support.
If you decide to continue with your pregnancy, experiencing further abuse can cause harm to you and your baby, including preterm labor and other health issues. Having a backup plan can be very beneficial. Identify a safe place to go and pack an emergency bag with essential documents such as your banking information and passport. Identify a place you can go to if you feel you are in harm’s way.
Who Can I Talk To?
You deserve to be surrounded by people you can trust. At Life Choices, we can point you toward the resources and support you need to be safe. Sometimes, offering a listening ear is one of the best forms of support during a frightening time.
Contact us today to receive free, nonjudgmental support. You are not alone and are deserving of help!