Are you in an abusive relationship?

The following checklist is to help you determine if you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship. This list is not exhaustive, but it is a good place to start. If you think you are a victim of abuse that is not listed below, please reach out to us.

• Has your partner often seemed irritated or angry with you, although you never meant to upset them? Have you felt confused by their anger? 
• Have you frequently felt perplexed and frustrated by your partner’s responses because you can’t get them to understand your intentions? 
• Has your partner acted jealous or possessive of you (accused you of having affairs or paying too much attention to others)? 
• Has your partner made you feel like you are mostly wrong, and they are always right? 
• Has your partner denied (I never did that), minimized (It wasn’t that bad) or
  justified their abuse (I wouldn’t have done that if you wouldn’t have done this)? 
• Have you felt like you are always walking on eggshells? Have you felt like you must be especially careful to avoid conflicts? 
• Has your partner called you bad names and put you down? 
• Has your partner given you angry glares or looks that scare you? 
• Has your partner controlled what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go? 
• Has your partner deterred you from relationships with your friends or family? 
• Has your partner controlled the money by: withholding financial information, preventing you from working, forcing you to work,
  taking your money, making you ask for money, or refusing to give you money? 
• Has your partner defined your feelings, opinions, needs, or wants? 
• Has your partner attempted or forced you to have sex against your will? 
• Has your partner told you you’re a bad parent and/or threatened to take away or hurt your children? 
• Has your partner followed you, shown up uninvited or wouldn’t leave when asked? 
• Has your partner gone through your things, mail, email, text or social media? 
• Has your partner destroyed property (hit, kicked doors, walls, furniture, thrown items, broken things etc.)? 
• Has your partner threatened to harm or has harmed/killed a family pet? 
• Has your partner intimidated or threatened you with guns, knives or other weapons? Has your partner used a weapon to control or harm you? 
• Has your partner intimidated you, shoved, slapped, pinched kicked, restrained, hit or choked you? Has your partner convinced
  or manipulated you to drop charges or a restraining/protective order? Has your partner threatened to commit suicide? 
• Has your partner threatened to kill you or your family?