The idea of telling your parents you’re pregnant can seem scary and uncomfortable. You may worry about their reaction or whether your relationship will change.
These fears are more common than you think, but preparing for the conversation and understanding the available support can help settle your nerves. As you navigate this situation, know you aren’t alone.
Life Choices is here to help you. We provide free pregnancy services in a safe, confidential environment. Schedule an appointment today to learn more.
In the meantime, keep reading to learn helpful tips about sharing the news with your parents.
1. Take a Deep Breath and Remember the Purpose.
Feeling worried about sharing your pregnancy news with your parents is normal. After all, you likely care about what they think, especially if you have a good relationship.
First, take a deep breath. Telling your parents about your pregnancy can feel daunting, but keeping them informed and letting them know which option you’re considering and why can help in the long run.
They may be more supportive than you think, and knowing what’s going on in your life can aid them in helping you.
2. Think About What You’d Like to Tell Them.
Remember, this is your pregnancy. You alone can make a decision. With that in mind, setting boundaries for the upcoming conversation is essential.
Some people want their parents involved, while others must enforce stricter boundaries to feel more comfortable. Consider what you’d like to share about your pregnancy, including:
- How far along you are
- Your initial feelings about the pregnancy
- Options you’re considering
You are in control and don’t have to discuss anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Thinking beforehand about what you’d like to say helps reinforce boundaries from the beginning.
You can also think about how you’d like your parents to offer support. For example, do you want them to help run errands and find information? Or do you prefer space?
3. Have the Conversation in a Comfortable Environment.
Sharing the news in a noisy, distracting environment can make it difficult for everyone to concentrate on what you’re saying. And you will likely want more privacy.
Choose a quieter place (such as your home or a park) to discuss your pregnancy. Scheduling a time when your parents can provide their full attention will ensure you’re heard and have time to elaborate if needed.
It’s best to be honest and direct. Their reactions may include shock, anger, confusion, or sadness. They’re likely questioning your next steps because they’re concerned about your future.
Remind them that you are in control and will make the pregnancy decision. Try your best to listen to their concerns; if they need time to process, you can continue the conversation at another time. That way, you can all regroup when you’ve had time to collect your thoughts.
We’re Here For You
Life Choices provides free and confidential pregnancy services. Whether you want to confirm your pregnancy or discuss how best to tell your parents, we’re here for you.
Schedule an appointment today.
Life Choices does not perform or refer for abortions.