As the father in an unplanned pregnancy situation, you will be affected by the pregnancy decisions being made. Do you help with parenting? Get married? Consider an adoption plan? Get an abortion? All of these decisions have trials and consequences.  

Take a moment to reflect on the following: 

You Should: 

• Listen. This situation is difficult for both of you–there are big decisions to make. Don’t rush her or pressure her. Listen to how she is feeling and keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. Don’t shut her out. Be there for her.

   

• Stay calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be the one who is pregnant, but you have both brought a new life into existence. Regardless of where the future of your relationship lies, you are also responsible for this pregnancy.

   

• Talk about it. Talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and what you think. Talk to people you trust and who will support you. Seek good advice. Be honest.
   
• Get all the facts. Gather all of the information you can so that you can make your best choice. Make sure you are knowledgeable about every choice, including its pros and cons. Make sure your girlfriend is making an informed decision that is safe for her. 

You Shouldn’t: 

• Bail on her. Running away will not make this situation easier for either of you.

   

• Pressure her. You may have different opinions about the path you should take. It may not be easy, but your goal should be to work together to make the best decision for everyone.